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If your relationship ends, and you have an eye out for new people to date, don't be surprised if you end up falling for someone just like your ex. According to recent research, which looked at data from a nine year study in Germany, this tends to be exactly what happens. The study examined the personality traits of an individual's ex and their current partner, and found a ificant degree of similarities. This may explain why you have a "type" when it comes to datingand possibly even why you keep having the same type of relationship.

While many factors are involved, one way to explain it is your attachment styleor how you act in relationships, which is determined by your experience within your family while growing up. Anxious people tend to be more of the 'clingy' type. Avoidant people tend to avoid emotional closeness and vulnerability.

Whatever your attachment style may be, you might find yourself attracted to people who feed into it, Nelson-Terry says. If you're anxious, for example, you might go for folks who are never truly available because it fuels that anxiety, and thus feels "right" to you, even if it isn't what you truly want.

It may also be that you're dating people with certain negative personality traits — like those who are controlling or emotionally detached — as a way of resolving old family conflicts.

That said, it could simply come down to enjoying certain qualities in people, and seeking them out as a result. Typically, though, relationships end for a reason, and your partner's personality traits can play into that. One way to help create a different situation is by taking a step back and reflecting on what went well in the past, and getting "clear on the relationship patterns and personality traits that contributed to your unhappiness," Nelson-Terry says. And from there, checking in with yourself as you start to date again.

It can also help to go to therapy to begin uncovering what may have contributed to your attachment style, if you aren't liking what you're seeing. You can even chat about what you're looking for in a partnerand create a few goals for the future, including how you might begin stepping outside your comfort zone.

It's fine to date someone like your exif they had qualities you liked. But if this is a pattern you'd like to step away from, you certainly can.

Park, Y. Arlene B. Noel Hunter, PsyDclinical psychologist. By Carolyn Steber.