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There's nothing in those vows that mentions a married man flirting with another woman! Granted, that's being facetious, but married men flirting with other women can be a very serious issue that can appear harmless, and yet is anything but. So, if that's the case, then why do married men flirt? This website is owned and operated by BetterHelp, who receives all fees associated with the platform. It's a gray area. Some people are naturally friendly, no matter who they're talking to or interacting with, and have no intention of flirting.

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How to stop married man from flirting when it's reciprocal April 14, PM Subscribe How to stop married man from flirting when it's reciprocal? I'm a notoriously bad crusher. Even though almost everyone would describe me as a competent, sensible, self-assured and promising young woman, I completely loose myself when someone breaks through to my inner core.

It's not that it happens all the time either, but when it does it's with a vengeance.

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I would definitely describe it as a 'crushing' sensation. Particularly this time, of course, because it's an impossible crush, as he's married with. Made worse by the fact that I think I even like him for all the right reasons: he's a nice guy, down-to-earth, straightforward, considerate, well-spoken, same career path etc. Made muchmuchmuch worse by the fact that the attraction seems to be mutual there's been some pretty classic s, complete with unusually long eye contact, teasing, finding excuses to be really close, nervousness, blushing In fact, while he is respectful about it, he is the more obvious of the two of us.

So this fact makes How to stop flirting with a married man all the more pertinent that I stop this thing in its tracks. But the willpower it takes to NOT look at him when I know he's looking at me, etc. AND, I feel like it would be cold to just ignore him entirely. So how do I manage this? He's a coworker; I don't see him that often but when I do I hate myself.

A lot. I know that it's wrong, and I definitely don't need advice on why seducing a married man is a bad idea. It might help to realize that if he's actually flirting with you, he's not such a nice guy.

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Well, in answer to your title question-- stop flirting with him. This seems to be the most obvious and least complicated solution. It seems that for you it will take willpower on your end, but that should be a lot easier than somehow controlling his actions.

Maybe you could focus on the fact that this nice, down-to-earth, married man with kids is openly flirting with someone who isn't his wife. It's not bad or wrong for you to feel attraction toward someone who is, you know, attractive.

You shouldn't hate yourself.

However, it's also not bad or wrong to be extra-professional and non-flirty with someone who is entirely and completely unavailable to you as a romantic partner. It's not cold, it's emotionally healthy and morally right. So, I guess what I'm saying is, to "regain control" you may need to get comfortable with being "cold"--not rude, not walking away as he's talking, but either by overtly a direct conversation, if necessary or subtly tone of voice, body language conveying to him that you are not going to flirt with him and that you're going to end conversations in which he starts flirting with you.

The only possible romantic future you have with this person is a dramatic and ultimately miserable one, for you, him and his children.

What about this do you find irresistibly attractive? He's married with kids? Well he is skating on thin ice, whether he knows it or not. So, if you want to regain control, I would say, imagine yourself in the position of ultimate responsibility which, to me is having children to nurture and care forand then see if this is a path that is wise.

Whether you are the one with or without kids Of course, the flip side he is a douche, and the kids are going to lose either way, but you might sleep easier at night knowing that you are not a figure in that particular breakdown.

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If you and he were together, he might well be flirting with someone else. How would you feel about that? And how would you feel about him if you saw him looking a little too long at, touching the hand of, someone else at work? Avoid him as much as possible. Don't be rude but stop flirting and making excuses to be near him. You're enjoying the attention.

Your best bet would be to find someone who is available to pay attention to you. The thing about crushes is most of the time they don't last that long. If you make a point to stop the flirting nonsense you'll probably be over him and onto something new in no time. There's nothing wrong with flirting as long as its never taken to the next level.

The fact that you think he's a "nice guy, down-to-earth, straightforward" would change if he ever tried anything further, wouldn't it? I have a mad, mad crush on Will Smith.

Yes, he is a great actor, but more importantly, I love and admire the fact that he is a good family man, a faithfull husband, and with a great value system. But if he were to try and pick me up in a bar, all my admiration for him would dissipate. And he'd probably become a bad actor, in my mind, too. The advice so far doesn't really some helpful because most of the crushes of that type that I've seen are less "I want a relationship with so-and-so" and more "I really like so-and-so as a person". Everyone has great responses for if you were daydreaming about him leaving his wife for you or whatever, but that doesn't seem to be the case.

If you can really get a picture in your head for how you treat each other as friends, respectfully, in a way that you could also act around his wife and kids say they invite a few coworkers over for dinner, or in five years' time you're a friend of the family, or whatnot.

You have to be able to imagine a world in which you neither ignore him nor 'tempt' him with visions of a carefree life, in order for that world to be possible. Sometimes you can just tone back the flirty stuff and let the vision develop naturally, but if you're already feeling bad about the situation you probably want to accelerate the process as much as possible.

In my experience, once you have a strong vision in your head of being just good friends with this guy, the flirty stuff will start to feel uncomfortable.

It's very easy to scoot away when he sits too close, if you're actually feeling weird about it instead of feeling all thrilled that you can feel his body heat. Yeah, exactly. Find a healthier target. You can't get this guy to stop trying to flirt with you, but you can definitely stop encouraging him, and with a quickness. Take responsibility for yourself and your part of this interaction.

And cut it out. Find someone available and appropriate to focus on. It's nice to feel that there is some deep connection or power between you, but ultimately it's an infatuation and he's married and it's much better for you to control what you can control.

Draw a hard line around him: Taken. Decide you aren't going there, and then stop doing it. Get out a little more. Focus on work. Put this to rest. Find some new people to hang out with. Get involved in a hobby or skill you've been wanting to learn. In other words, get the ego boost elsewhere. This is dangerous if you feel so out of control of your own emotions. Can you get to know his wife?

Sometimes seeing the rest of the dimensions of his life puts everything in perspective. As a wise woman my mom often tells me: "you can't control how others act, but you CAN control your reactions to them. Try not to be alone together, and imagine how much gossip would go around and how it would affect your career if something were to happen between you two. Make a list of all the reasons why this guy is not right for you.

Every little picky detail, from "He's married" to "he likes U2" down to "his canine teeth are unpleasantly yellow". If ever his family comes to a work event, get to know them. Once they're real people to you, you'll probably be less inclined to flirt. You need to stop thinking of yourself as a loose cannon of sexual energy that can't possibly be reigned in.

If you genuinely want to stop, don't tantalize yourself with the notion that this is beyond your control. Don't make excuses I'm just a notorious crusher. Anything less than a persistent and intention effort to turn him off is simply not genuine.

When have this feeling, do not fight with it to make it go away--it cannot be "stopped in its tracks. Therefore, resolve first to never act upon it. Second allow it to pass.