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Shows and movies about love seem to portray women in the same sort of fashion; even novels will have the main woman pouring her heart and soul out to a man on the first date. The men in these stories tend to be seemingly receptive to these gestures, and over a short period of time, the two love birds fall hard for one another and live happily ever after.
The women, who seem the hardest to love, often deserve it the most. You may not understand, but I do. You see, when someone loves so immensely deep, to ultimately get their heart broken, everything begins to shift. Honestly, its every last detail of her being that dramatically changes.
She begins to look at life in a different lens. A lens that is cracked and blurred, but can you blame her?
After such heartache, and such betrayal it becomes almost second nature to bail the second she feels her heart light up again. This was years of consistent disappointment and loss. This is years of handing her heart and trust over to another person, only to get it shattered into a million little pieces.
1. we treasure alone time
She always has one foot out the door and always has an escape plan. She knows the ones who are willing to fight for her are the ones that are actually worth the risk. So, if she feels she needs to leave, she will.
She loves with caution. She is looking at every detail of your mind.
The 5 stages of dating a guarded girl
In the past, words were her weakness. Someone along the way filled her mind with false hope and hollow dreams. She desperately needs action. She may become distant. In those quiet moments are the times she needs reassurance.
Show her you want to know her mind and show her that her heart is safe with you. She will show in little gestures that her walls are slowly coming down.
She listens to you when you speak. She will show up with your favorite candy or sit in a bar with you while you watch your game.
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This is her way of transforming her feelings for you in action. Her guard has been up for a while now. She has finally adjusted to her life without having someone there.
Be patient, she is trying to adjust her time and life to include you in it. Her friends and family are watching your every move. Her support system has seen her fall apart.
2. we take it slow
They watched as she spent the last few months picking herself up piece by piece. Just as your family is looking out for you, her family is looking out for her.
When she chooses you, you will know. It was probably the toughest decision in the world for her to choose to be vulnerable. When she decides to hand over her trust and her heart, I promise you will know. She will want to introduce you to her friends and her family, she will surprise you with your favorite beer, she will text you back the second she gets the chance to, she will make time throughout the week for you, she will tell you when she is feeling down, and she will love you unconditionally.
When you feel she is being guarded, just be patient, and show her that you are dedicated to her. These words are for us all.
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