Most Christian parents tend to fall into two different camps when it comes to teen dating.
Some believe that dating is never appropriate and encourage their children to follow a courtship model. Others feel that dating can be a positive experience for teens provided they are mature enough and the parents know and trust the dating partner. Sexual promiscuity is rampant, even among Christian teens, and many young people receive little or no moral guidance from their parents. Binge drinking, date violence, and even date rape are far too common.
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In light of this, we would advise that boys and girls under the age of seventeen should not be allowed to go out on one-on-one dates. There are simply too many dangers associated with this kind of activity.
Instead, they should be encouraged to participate in group dates with a of Christian friends who share their moral and spiritual values. Even then, mom and dad should make sure that they are well acquainted with the other kids in the group and their parents. Some parents may feel comfortable allowing a mature, responsible seventeen- or eighteen-year-old to go out on individual dates.
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If an older teen displays maturity, common sense, and sound moral judgment, dating can play an important role in his or her growth and development. It can also teach them how to relate to the opposite sex in a healthy way and to recognize the character qualities that are truly important in a marriage relationship. Encourage them to mingle with both boys and girls in a mixed group setting, such as a church youth group.
Talk about pursuing a commitment to sexual purity and make it clear that, for the time being, there can be no question of unsupervised dates. Then you can promise to revisit the dating question after he or she turns seventeen if your child displays the necessary s of maturity and sound judgment at that time.
Resources If a title is currently unavailable through Focus on the Family, we encourage you to use another retailer. Guiding Your Teen in Faith and Dating. Boundaries in Dating.
Preparing Your Teen for Life. Helping Sons Guard Their Purity.
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